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Dagmara Almand


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Why worry?

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There has been a great deal of “worry” talk going on around me recently. I am not much on “worry” talk.
It never has to do with the present. It always has to do with something that might or might not happen in the future. Something we don’t know.

So… I wanted to share a story with you about worrying

I married a man with bad vision. He wore -9 and -9.5 contacts. Without them he was legally blind. From 2002, when we got married, I made sure he got his biannual eye exams, took his contacts our regularly, ate vitamins. In short, I did everything to make sure he was taking the best care he could of his eyes.
I worried about his vision.
I worried about him not being able to do the things he enjoyed. Reading books. Watching movies. Doing the things you need your eyesight for.
I just worried that as we grew older he wouldn’t be able to see.
I worried about something that wouldn’t happen for years because of the impact it would make on his later years in life.
I never worried about our overall health. We were young, fit, never ate fastfood, didn’t smoke. Young people are healthy aren’t they?
Only old people need check-ups!

So one night, at the age of 34, he had a massive heart attack on the living room floor and passed away.
No heart problems or family history. Just a single moment in time happening very differently than I ever imagined. And definitely not something I ever worried about.

I know there are very few thing in life I have absolute control over
I have control over who shows up when we walk out the door every morning. How I interact with people and what I put out into the world
I know I only have control over who I am

Don’t worry about the big stuff and don’t sweat the small stuff
Do what you have in your power to make your world as beautiful as possible for you and for others
Do what you can to live the life you want in a world you want to be a part of at this very moment
Don’t worry about what may or may not happen
Be thankful. Be free. Be present.


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Although the day did pass me by

Hi Everybody
Sorry that I haven’t written in a while. I took my daughter on vacation for a couple of weeks and showed her part of the world. I will post something shortly but in the meantime I have a poem that I am working on… I hope you enjoy it…
Have a beautiful day! Go out and make it beautiful, and pass on the joy and love 🙂

Although the Day Did Pass Me By

Although the day did pass me by
I did not stand asking the world why
I was not saddened by the thought
Today’s battle lovingly fought
I did not win nor did I lose
For my head does not hang down in shame
I do not say… there’s here a blame
I was not saddened by the fall
For in the morn the light will call

Get up it says
The day is new
You have not fallen
There’s much to do
You’ll forge ahead
Each step you take
You’ll see the light
Through every wake
Through every hardship
Every tear
With every step
To th’end you fear
Will draw you closer
Show you more
Will help you see behind each door
That none are filled with glitter and gold
That every door… beauty ‘t does hold
That every door will show you pain
That all the feelings you contain
Are ones that others bear as well

We learn to see through pain the love
We learn to hear through sobs the smiles
We learn to know that all the while
There is a reason we are here
To love, to lose, to love again
To feel, to break, and then to mend
So break free from the chains you’ve cast
Upon your own feet
and at last
Be happy that you’re free to share
To love
and know that Someone cares
He watches over one and all
He will protect you when you fall
He’ll bear your burdens all and oft
Will hold you gently and be soft

So lift your head and pray a prayer
and find joy as above all’s fair
You will rejoice although your sad
You will laugh when all the fad
and all the rage goes ‘gainst your grain
And strong and true you shall remain


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Choices?…

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I came across two stories recently that make such a poignant remark about life choices.

In the first a woman’s husband pocket calls her while on a date with his mistress. From the call she learns all she needs to.
So she decides to take her life back. She finds  e-mails between her husband and mistress and sends them to the mistress’ husband.  She confronts her husband with the affair and shows him downloaded proof. She wants to takes her life back. She wants to be strong.
They try therapy, conversations, family trips in hopes of saving their marriage. But she wants him to confess and make amends. He doesn’t. He is in love with his mistress. It’s over.
imagesThe other story starts out in much the same way.  A husband comes home and tells his wife he is having an affair. He no longer loves her. He is leaving her for his mistress. She gets mad, yells, and walks out of the room. That night they do not speak. She has time to think. She too makes a choice.  She wants nothing from him. Not his company. His money. His possessions.
She just asks that he put it off for one month.  Their son’s exams are coming up and she wants him to do well.
He agrees.
Then she asks for one favor. During that month could he remember the night they were married? How he carried her across the threshold? Could he humor her and carry her from the bedroom door to the front door like that for the month?
He agrees. For the sake of a peaceful month.
The walks are clumsy at first. Not knowing how to hold her. What to do. But they become progressively more intimate. The smell of her hair. The softness of her cheek. How long has it been since he has truly looked at this woman?savvy-quote-if-you-dont-like-your-life-make-better-choices
They don’t speak. Just walk.
She asks for nothing else. Puts no other conditions on their relationship. And so on the last day as he runs up the steps to his mistresses door and knocks the words “I am not getting a divorce” leave his lips.

There is no right or wrong choice in life. It is a choice. Our choices depend on our life experiences and what we believe will make us happy. Our choices will teach us life’s lessons.
You have to decide what makes you happy. What you’re willing to sacrifice. Which story you would rather be a part of. Which ending you want.
For me…whichever my story I want it always be filled with love. And without regrets.


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Without change there would be no butterflies!!

imagesThese past few weeks I have been making calls and getting activities sponsored for kids through All Love Always Charity so they can see the beauty and joy of this amazing life. One of the contacts I made has been super sweet, amazing and just really helpful about getting stuff done with her company.

We spoke the other day and she shared some terrible news with me.
She said…
Between meeting you and now my father past away and I have a 5 year old half sister who I am now responsible for. If we hadn’t met I wouldn’t even know there were any programs out there that she could be a part of and that could help her. I will definitely be contacting you.

I am so very sorry for her loss and for the loss of her half sisterimages

But I am so glad that I chose this path. Because I  just helped one person that I wouldn’t have otherwise helped. I am so glad that I enlarged my circle of possibility and opened a door that I had never opened before and found myself in the middle of this new possibility!
Isn’t that what we all aspire to? To make changes. Whether it’s in someone else’s life or our own. Don’t we all want to make a change? Open up an unrealized and unexpected possibility?

imagesMove forward. Make one change in your life today. Dare to do something you have never done before. Go to the local coffee shop and strike up a conversation with someone sitting next to you. Sign up for a class you never would. Do something so grand, so different from your norm that it excites you. It doesn’t have to be big. It just has to be big for you. And choose to enjoy it. Really enjoy it!  Make it something that gives you butterflies and makes you tingle with excitement! It won”t be the same for everyone. We are all on different paths of our journey. Make it something right for you and soar with it! Find something that puts a smile on your face and happiness to your heart!


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National Poetry Week- Thank you…So glad to have been a part of it all!

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On April 3rd I noticed a post from the NAPOWRIMO and as my finger reached for the delete button I stopped. There was no harm in taking the challenge? Or at least trying to take it.

And over these past weeks as I wrote poems and shared thoughts I go to know a whole group of people that I might never have gotten to come into contact with. I got to know you through your words your  poetry and your writing. I got a better understanding of the notion of blogging. And of the every morning deadline.

Thank you so much to everyone who has shared their beautiful words and ideas. Thank you imagesfor stopping by to check out my page and to comment on my words. Thank you for opening
my eyes and thoughts to your ideas and your way of thinking.

I am so glad that I took the challenge.
And that I had a chance to meet you.
Happy Beautiful Tuesday 🙂

PS
If you have a chance to stop by and “like” my
All Love Always facebook page
(on the right side of the blog page) I would be eternally grateful 🙂
It’s a great cause!


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National Poetry Month- Gratitude

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As I wandered down the lanes of my memory

and laughed at my mistakes

The birds chirped their songs of gratitude

so long forgotten in the tunes of man

And the trees swayed to the rhythms

of the ocean breeze

As the flowers bloomed to face the faithful sun

hidden behind the mist of foggy dreams

My soul was lifted in appreciation

for where my heart had roamed

Thank you was my song