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Dagmara Almand


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Choices?…

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I came across two stories recently that make such a poignant remark about life choices.

In the first a woman’s husband pocket calls her while on a date with his mistress. From the call she learns all she needs to.
So she decides to take her life back. She finds  e-mails between her husband and mistress and sends them to the mistress’ husband.  She confronts her husband with the affair and shows him downloaded proof. She wants to takes her life back. She wants to be strong.
They try therapy, conversations, family trips in hopes of saving their marriage. But she wants him to confess and make amends. He doesn’t. He is in love with his mistress. It’s over.
imagesThe other story starts out in much the same way.  A husband comes home and tells his wife he is having an affair. He no longer loves her. He is leaving her for his mistress. She gets mad, yells, and walks out of the room. That night they do not speak. She has time to think. She too makes a choice.  She wants nothing from him. Not his company. His money. His possessions.
She just asks that he put it off for one month.  Their son’s exams are coming up and she wants him to do well.
He agrees.
Then she asks for one favor. During that month could he remember the night they were married? How he carried her across the threshold? Could he humor her and carry her from the bedroom door to the front door like that for the month?
He agrees. For the sake of a peaceful month.
The walks are clumsy at first. Not knowing how to hold her. What to do. But they become progressively more intimate. The smell of her hair. The softness of her cheek. How long has it been since he has truly looked at this woman?savvy-quote-if-you-dont-like-your-life-make-better-choices
They don’t speak. Just walk.
She asks for nothing else. Puts no other conditions on their relationship. And so on the last day as he runs up the steps to his mistresses door and knocks the words “I am not getting a divorce” leave his lips.

There is no right or wrong choice in life. It is a choice. Our choices depend on our life experiences and what we believe will make us happy. Our choices will teach us life’s lessons.
You have to decide what makes you happy. What you’re willing to sacrifice. Which story you would rather be a part of. Which ending you want.
For me…whichever my story I want it always be filled with love. And without regrets.

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Without change there would be no butterflies!!

imagesThese past few weeks I have been making calls and getting activities sponsored for kids through All Love Always Charity so they can see the beauty and joy of this amazing life. One of the contacts I made has been super sweet, amazing and just really helpful about getting stuff done with her company.

We spoke the other day and she shared some terrible news with me.
She said…
Between meeting you and now my father past away and I have a 5 year old half sister who I am now responsible for. If we hadn’t met I wouldn’t even know there were any programs out there that she could be a part of and that could help her. I will definitely be contacting you.

I am so very sorry for her loss and for the loss of her half sisterimages

But I am so glad that I chose this path. Because I  just helped one person that I wouldn’t have otherwise helped. I am so glad that I enlarged my circle of possibility and opened a door that I had never opened before and found myself in the middle of this new possibility!
Isn’t that what we all aspire to? To make changes. Whether it’s in someone else’s life or our own. Don’t we all want to make a change? Open up an unrealized and unexpected possibility?

imagesMove forward. Make one change in your life today. Dare to do something you have never done before. Go to the local coffee shop and strike up a conversation with someone sitting next to you. Sign up for a class you never would. Do something so grand, so different from your norm that it excites you. It doesn’t have to be big. It just has to be big for you. And choose to enjoy it. Really enjoy it!  Make it something that gives you butterflies and makes you tingle with excitement! It won”t be the same for everyone. We are all on different paths of our journey. Make it something right for you and soar with it! Find something that puts a smile on your face and happiness to your heart!